Chapter-Three

A New Beginning

Being Honest About Anger

It is unthinkable that God would do wrong, that the Almighty would pervert justice. Job 34:12

By the end of this chapter, you’ll be able to consider how to:

• honestly admit any anger to God regarding your divorce
• resign your right to judge what God allows
• discover and choose the higher good God offers you,BR>

When my marriage started to unravel, I began wondering what promises from God I could put my hope in. My life deteriorated daily, while I cried out for God to give me a word like what he has spoken so often to others fighting for their lives. Something like,“Stand back and see the deliverance of the Lord” would have been just perfect. It didn’t happen. In fact, the only promise he consistently brought me back to was “I am with you always.” “Thanks a lot!”I’d moan. It sounded more like a consolation prize. Didn’t he understand I wanted to win this war? What good was God if that was the best he could do?

The Feelings You Feel

It’s quite normal to feel angry at God for not protecting your marriage. After all, if he wanted to, he could have changed everything and made your life easier. It made me so angry that he didn’t. I wrestled with all sorts of questions, but my worst were aimed at him. See if you resonate with any of these:

__How could you let this happen to me?
__What did I do to deserve this?
__Why are you so deaf to my pain?
__Why should I even bother to come to you any more?
__Are you some sort of cruel parent who causes pain so your children will need you?

Go back and check off any that you’ve asked. God wants to hear your questions. Many of the Psalms were written by people lamenting the . . . .

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